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Monday, 29 October, 2007

Friendship Vs Love This A General Aurgument Which We Find In Many Places

"Some Happenings Are Beyond Reason,Some Feelings Are Only Understood By The Heart Thats Love"

"Friendship Is An In-Depth Relationship Combining Trust, Support, Communication,
Loyalty, Understanding, Empathy And Intimacy".

Some Say
"...No Man Is Useless While he Has A Friendship."

Some Say
"...No Love There Is No Life, No Friend"

So So Sooooooooooooooo

What Is Greater Than What???

Which Is More Important In Life???

What Do U Prefer???

This Or That???

Friendship Or Love

True frndshp is:

(\\\\_ _/)       (\\_ _//)
       (=“•“=)        (=“•“=)
       (“) ♥ (“)        (“) ♥ (“)
      ▒▒▒▒▒▒     ▒▒▒▒▒▒▒
   ▒▒▒▒▒▒▒▒▒▒  ▒▒▒▒▒▒▒▒▒▒▒▒
  ▒▒▒ Make a friend, is a gift ▒▒▒
 ▒▒▒▒ Have a friend, is a Grace ▒▒▒
▒ Maintain a friend, is a virtue ▒
 ▒▒▒ But, have you as like friend ▒▒▒▒
   ▒▒▒▒▒▒▒▒▒ is a ▒▒▒▒▒▒▒▒▒
     ▒▒▒▒ great happiness ▒▒▒

The perfect:

Money and power only last the hour, but friendship withstand the sky above."

"Friends are the sunshine of life! Thanks for brightening my world with the warmth of your friendship!"

"Your Friendship adds... Beauty to my life!"

"My best friend is the one who brings out the best in me."

"Friends are like stars, you can't always see them but you know that they're there."

"I believe in angels, the kind that heaven sends. I'm surrounded by angels, but I call them my best friends."

"A true friend is someone who reaches for your hand and touches your heart."

"Friends are the roses of life... pick them carefully and avoid the thorns!"

"A great friend is someone who makes your problems their problems just so you don't have to go through them alone!"


friends like u are the inspirations to write things like the above ones......
::::::(=' :'):::::::(=' :')::::::(=' :'):::::(=' :')::::::
F riends
R esponsible
I ntelligent
E xciting to be Around
N ice Always
D ependable
S miles a Lot

F riendly Personality
O utstanding
R eally Great Memories

E xcellent Listener
V ery Kind
E njoyable
R emember our friendship

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* . *.*. * . ** . *.*OPENED
** . *.*. * . * . * THE WINDOWS
* .. * . * ..* * . *.*. * OF HEAVEN
¸.•´¸.•*´¨) ¸.•*¨) * . *.*LOOKED AT ME
(¸.•´ (¸.•` *.*.*.** . *.*. *AND ASKED...
...*(¨`•.•´¨) .*.*.*.*.* * . *.*. *WHAT IS YOUR :-)
. * .`•.¸(¨`•.•´¨) * . * . * . * ...*DREAM
. * .*.. *`•.¸.•´* (¨`•.•´¨) * . *FOR
* .. *..(¨`•.•´¨). *`•.¸.•´* . *TODAY?
..* ... *`•.¸.•´ * *. * . * . * ... *I
* . * . * . . * . *.*. * . * . *ANSWERED-
___00000___00000 *.*. * . * .. *GOD
__0000000_0000000. * . * . *TAKE
__0000 OOOO 00000. * . * . *CARE
___0000000000000 * . * . * . *OF THE
____00000000000 * . *. * . * .*PERSON
______0000000 * . *. * . * . * .. * . *.*WHO
________000 * . *. * . * ... * . *.*IS
_________0* . * .. ** .. * . *.*READING
* . * .. ** .. * . * . * . * . *.*THIS
.. * . (\ *** /) * . *.*.*TESTIMONAL
.* . * ( \(_)/ ) * * .BECAUSE,
.* . * (_ /|\ _) . *. * THIS PERSON IS
.* . * . /___\ * . . * . *A
*. * . * . * . . * *SPECIAL FREIND
FOR ME....
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____xxxxxxxxxx______xxxxxxxxxxx H
___xxxxxxxxxxxxx___xxxxxxxxxxxxx A
___xxxxxxxxxxxxxx_xxxxxxxxxxxxxx N
___xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx K
____xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx S
_________xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx F
___________xxxxxxxxxxxxx O
_____________xxxxxxxxx R
_______________xxx B
______________xx E
_____________x I
___________x N
________xx G
___xxxxxx M
___xxxxxxx Y
________xxxxxxx F
_________xxxxxx R
_________xxxxxx I
________xxxxx E
_____xxxxxx N
____xxxx D
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(¸.•´ (¸.•` * ¸.•´¸.•*´¨) ¸.•*¨)
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.........\00/.... .........\00/.... CHEERS
..........\0/..... ..........\0/..... TO
...........||...... ...........||...... OUR
...........||...... ...........||...... FRIENDSHIP!
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(¸.•´...¸.•´¸.•*´¨) ¸.•*¨) ¸.•´¸.•*´¨) ¸.•*¨)
(¸.•´ (¸.•` * ¸.•´¸.•*´¨)
¶¶¶¶¶¶ aithful…

¶¶¶¶¶¶ espectful…

¶¶¶ ntelligent…

¶¶¶¶¶¶ verlasting or loyal…

¶¶¶¶¶¶¶¶ aughty…and

¶¶¶___¶¶¶earest of all…

Live Life n make

•.¸¸.•♥´¨`♥•.¸Some friends are like a Flower•.¸¸.•♥´¨`♥•.¸
and when they finally bloom•.¸¸.•♥´¨`♥•.¸they wilt away•.¸¸.•♥´¨`♥•.¸
in just one day •.¸¸.•♥´¨`♥•.¸and some times just by noon•.¸¸.•♥´¨`♥•.¸
Some friends are like a cloudy day •.¸¸.•♥´¨`♥•.¸
and when the sun's in sight•.¸¸.•♥´¨`♥•.¸
it gets blocked by the grayest cloud•.¸¸.•♥´¨`♥•.¸
and day turns into night•.¸¸.•♥´¨`♥•.¸
Some friends are like a maple tree•.¸¸.•♥´¨`♥•.¸
and with the slightest breeze•.¸¸.•♥´¨`♥•.¸the coloured leaves•.¸¸.•♥´¨`♥•.¸
they all come loose•.¸¸.•♥´¨`♥•.¸and float away with ease•.¸¸.•♥´¨`♥•.¸
Some friends are like a circle•.¸¸.•♥´¨`♥•.¸
for thet are always ture •.¸¸.•♥´¨`♥•.¸
I know i have a Friend like that and YES •.¸¸.•♥´¨`♥•.¸
that friend is you •.¸¸.•♥´¨`♥•.¸

May the Candle of our Friendship burn Forever

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friends, activity partners, dating (women)

Yeah here we go for the hundredth time
Hand grenade pins in every line

Throw 'em up and let something shine
Going out of my fucking mind

Filthy mouth, no excuse
Find a new place to hang this noose

String me up from atop these roofs
Knot it tight so i won't get loose

Truth is you can stop and stare
Bled myself out and no one cares

Dug the trench out laid down there
With a shovel up out of reach somewhere

Yeah, someone pour it in
Make it a dirt dance floor again

Say your prayers and stomp it out
When they bring that chorus in

I bleed it out digging deeper
Just to throw it away

I bleed it out digging deeper
Just to throw it away

I bleed it out digging deeper
Just to throw it away

Just to throw it away
Just to throw it away

I bleed it out

Go stop the show
Choppy words and a sloppy flow

Shotgun opera lock and load
Cock it back and then watch it go

Mama help me I've been cursed
Death is rolling in every verse

Candy paint on his brand new hearse
Can't contain him he knows he works

Fuck this hurts I won't lie
Doesn't matter how hard I try

Half the words don't mean a thing
And I know that I wont be satisfied

So why try ignoring him
Make it a dirt dance floor again

Say your prayers and stomp it out
When they bring that chorus in

I bleed it out digging deeper
Just to throw it away

I bleed it out digging deeper
Just to throw it away

I bleed it out digging deeper
Just to throw it away

Just to throw it away
Just to throw it away

I bleed it out

I've opened up these scars
I'll make you face this

I've pulled myself so far
I'll make you, face, this, now!!!!

I bleed it out digging deeper
Just to throw it away

I bleed it out digging deeper
Just to throw it away

I bleed it out digging deeper
Just to throw it away

Just to throw it away
Just to throw it away

I bleed it out digging deeper
Just to throw it away

I bleed it out digging deeper
Just to throw it away

I bleed it out digging deeper
Just to throw it away

Just to throw it away
Just to throw it away

I bleed it out
I bleed it out
I bleed it out


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TEDDY BEAR is the sign of FriEndsHip!
Make a friend... it´s a gift!
Have a friend... it´s a grace!
Keep a friend... it´s a virtue!
But be a friend... it´s a HONOR!

Live Life n make:

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Saturday, 27 October, 2007

Friendship contrasted with comradeship

Friendship can be mistaken for comradeship. Comradeship is the feeling of affinity that draws people together in time of war or when people have a mutual enemy or even a common goal. Former New York Times war correspondent Chris Hedges wrote: "We feel in wartime comradeship. We confuse this with friendship, with love. There are those, who will insist that the comradeship of war is love — the exotic glow that makes us in war feel as one people, one entity, is real, but this is part of war's intoxication. As this feeling dissipated in the weeks after the attack, there was a kind of nostalgia for its warm glow and wartime always brings with it this comradeship, which is the opposite of friendship. Friends are predetermined; friendship takes place between men and women who possess an intellectual and emotional affinity for each other. But comradeship – that ecstatic bliss that comes with belonging to the crowd in wartime – is within our reach. We can all have comrades." [2] As a war ends, or a common enemy recedes, comrades return to being strangers, who lack friendship and have little in common.

Colloquial terms

A number of colloquial terms have been used to describe friendship and the context in which a friendship is fostered. These are briefly described below.

* A friend who supports others only when it is easy and convenient to do so is called a "fair-weather friend".
* A friend who supports their own friends through emotional difficulties is a "true friend." This term also denotes a large degree of altruism, in that the true friend often sacrifices something of his or her own (usually their time and resources) in order to help the friend in need. True friends also are known to be very rare. A true friend may not be your best friend but someone who you know will be there for you.
* Friends who are sexually intimate but don't consider themselves to be dating is said to be a "casual relationship". This is also referred to as being "friends with benefits".
* A "best friend" is a friend to whom one feels closest. It is usually implied that the relationship is reciprocal, but such is not always the case, and best friend relationships can often be very complex.

Interspecies friendship and animal friendship

Friendship as a type of interpersonal relationship is found also among animals with high intelligence, such as the higher mammals and some birds. Cross-species friendships are common between humans and domestic animals. Less common but noteworthy are friendships between an animal and another animal of a different species, such as a dog and cat.

Non-personal friendships

Although the term initially described relations between individuals, it is at times used for political purposes to describe relations between states or peoples ("the Franco-German friendship", for example), indicating in this case an affinity or mutuality of purpose between the two nations.

Regarding this aspect of international relations, Lord Palmerston said: "Nations have no permanent friends and no permanent enemies. Only permanent interests."

The word "friendship" can be used in political speeches as an emotive modifier. Friendship in international relationships often refers to the quality of historical, existing, or anticipated bilateral relationships.

Types of friendship

* Acquaintance
* Romantic friendship
* Soulmate
* Pen pal
* Internet friendship
* Comrade
* Platonic life-partner
* Friends with benefits
* Sexualized friendship
* Boston marriage
* Blood brotherhood
* Companionate love
* Intimate relationship
* Love
* Platonic love
* Romantic love
* Open relationship
* Roommate
* Spiritual

Developmental issues

In the sequence of the emotional development of the individual, friendships come after parental bonding and before the pair bonding engaged in at the approach of maturity. In the intervening period between the end of early childhood and the onset of full adulthood, friendships are often the most important relationships in the emotional life of the adolescent, and are often more intense than relationships later in life. However making friends seems to trouble lots of people; having no friends can be emotionally damaging in some cases. Sometimes going years without a single friend can lead to suicide.

A study by researches from Purdue University found that post secondary education (e.g. college) friendships last longer than the friendships before it.

Decline of friendship

The number and quality of friendships for the average American has been declining since at least 1985, according to a 2006 study.[1] The study states that 25% of Americans have no close confidants, and that the average total number of confidants per person has dropped to 2.

In recent times, some thinkers have postulated that modern friendships have lost the force and importance that they had in antiquity. C. S. Lewis for example, in his The Four Loves, writes:

"To the Ancients, Friendship seemed the happiest and most fully human of all loves; the crown of life and the school of virtue. The modern world, in comparison, ignores it. We admit of course that besides a wife and family a man needs a few 'friends'. But the very tone of the admission, and the sort of acquaintanceships which those who make it would describe as 'friendships', show clearly that what they are talking about has very little to do with that Philia which Aristotle classified among the virtues or that Amicitia on which Cicero wrote a book."

Likewise, Paul Halsall claims that:

"The intense emotional and affective relationships described in the past as "non-sexual" cannot be said to exist today: modern heterosexual men can be buddies, but unless drunk they cannot touch each other, or regularly sleep together. They cannot affirm that an emotional affective relationship with another man is the centrally important relationship in their lives. It is not going too far, is it, to claim that friendship – if used to translate Greek philia or Latin amicitia – hardly exists among heterosexual men in modern Western society."

Mark McLelland, writing in the Western Buddhist Review under his Buddhist name of Dharmachari Jñanavira (Article), more directly points to homophobia being at the root of a modern decline in the western tradition of friendship:

"Hence, in our cultural context where homosexual desire has for centuries been considered sinful, unnatural and a great evil, the experience of homoerotic desire can be very traumatic for some individuals and severely limit the potential for same-sex friendship. The Danish sociologist Henning Bech, for instance, writes of the anxiety which often accompanies developing intimacy between male friends:

"'The more one has to assure oneself that one's relationship with another man is not homosexual, the more conscious one becomes that it might be, and the more necessary it becomes to protect oneself against it. The result is that friendship gradually becomes impossible.'"

Their opinion that fear of being, or being seen as, homosexual has killed off western man's ability to form close friendships with other men is shared by Japanese psychologist Doi Takeo, who claims that male friendships in American society are fraught with homosexual anxiety and thus homophobia is a limiting factor stopping men from establishing deep friendships with other men.

The suggestion that friendship contains an ineluctable element of erotic desire is not new, but has been advanced by students of friendship ever since the time of the ancient Greeks, where it comes up in the writings of Plato. More recently, the Austrian philosopher Otto Weininger claimed that:

"There is no friendship between men that has not an element of sexuality in it, however little accentuated it may be in the nature of the friendship, and however painful the idea of the sexual element would be. But it is enough to remember that there can be no friendship unless there has been some attraction to draw the men together. Much of the affection, protection, and nepotism between men is due to the presence of unsuspected sexual compatibility." (Sex and Character, 1903)

Recent western scholarship in gender theory and feminism concurs, as reflected in the writings of Eve Sedgwick in her The Epistemology of the Closet, and Jonathan Dollimore in his Sexual Dissidence and Cultural Change: Augustine to Wilde, Freud to Foucaul|

Modern west

In the Western world, intimate physical contact has been sexualised in the public mind over the last one hundred years and is considered taboo in friendship, especially between two males. However, stylized hugging or kissing may be considered acceptable, depending on the context (see, for example, the kiss the tramp gives the kid in The Kid). In Spain and other Mediterranean countries men may embrace each other in public and kiss each other on the cheek. This is not limited solely to older generations but rather is present throughout all generations. In young children throughout the modern western world, friendship, usually of a homosocial nature, typically exhibits elements of a closeness and intimacy suppressed later in life in order to conform to societal standards.


In the Middle East and Central Asia male friendships, while less restricted than in Russia, tend also to be reserved and respectable in nature.


In Ancient Greece, in Plato's Symposium, a text which addresses pederasty, a character named Pausanius asserts: "the interests of rulers require that their subjects should be poor in spirit, and that there should be no strong bond of friendship or society among them, which love, above all other motives, is likely to inspire, as our Athenian tyrants learned by experience; for the love of Aristogeiton and the constancy of Harmodius had a strength which undid their power." (Symposium; 182c). The overall tone of The Symposium stresses the importance of asceticism and spiritual love over lust. Critics have long had difficulty interpreting the various opinions outlined in The Symposium, and generally agree that Plato's view is prescriptive rather than descriptive. Nevertheless, the speech of Pausanius provides evidence for pederasty in 5th century Athens.


The relationship is constructed differently in different cultures. In Russia, for example, one typically accords very few people the status of "friend". These friendships however make up in intensity what they lack in number. Friends are entitled to call each other by their first names alone, and to use diminutives. A norm of polite behaviour is addressing "acquaintances" by full first name plus patronymic. These could include relationships which elsewhere would be qualified as real friendships, such as workplace relationships of long standing, neighbors with whom one shares an occasional meal and visit, and so on. Physical contact between friends is expected, and friends, whether or not of the same sex, will embrace, sometimes kiss and walk in public with their arms around each other, or arm-in-arm, or hand-in-hand (like kids often do), without the slightest embarrassment or sexual connotation — this is not often seen in the modern Russia, and may be some highly outdated norm.

According to Oleg Kharkhordin in a paper on the politics of friendship, in Soviet society, friendships were "a suspect value for the Stalinist regime" in that they presented a stronger allegiance that could stand in possible opposition to allegiance to the Communist party. "By definition, a friend was an individual who would not let you down even under direct menace to him- or herself; a person to whom one could securely entrust one's controversial thoughts since he or she would never betray them, even under pressure. Friendship thus in a sense became an ultimate value produced in resistance struggles in the Soviet Union".
Friendship is considered one of the central human experiences, and has been sanctified by all major religions. The Epic of Gilgamesh, a Babylonian poem that is among the earliest known literary works in history, chronicles in great depth the friendship between Gilgamesh and Enkidu. The Greco-Roman had, as a paramount example, the friendship of Orestes and Pylades. The Abrahamic faiths have the story of David and Jonathan. Friendship played an important role in German Romanticism. A good example for this is Schiller's The Hostage (ballad). The Christian Gospels state that Jesus Christ declared, "No one has greater love than this, to lay down one's life for one's friends."(John 15:13).

In philosophy, Aristotle is perhaps best known for his discussion (in the Nicomachean Ethics) of philia, which is usually (somewhat misleadingly) translated as "friendship", and certainly included friendship, though is a much broader concept.

Cultural variations: (stub-section) A group of friends consists of two or more people who are in a mutually pleasing relationship engendering a sentiment of camaraderie, exclusivity and mutual trust. There are varying degrees of "closeness" between friends. Hence, some people choose to differentiate and categorize friendships based on this sentiment.


Friendship is a term used to denote co-operative and supportive behavior between two or more humans. This article focuses on the notion specific to interpersonal relationships. In this sense, the term connotes a relationship which involves mutual knowledge, esteem, and affection. Friends will welcome each other's company and exhibit loyalty towards each other, often to the point of altruism. Their tastes will usually be similar and may converge, and they will share enjoyable activities. They will also engage in mutually helping behavior, such as exchange of advice and the sharing of hardship. A friend is someone who may often demonstrate reciprocating and reflective behaviors. Yet for many, friendship is nothing more than the trust that someone or something will not harm them. Value that is found in friendships is often the result of a friend demonstrating on a consistent basis:

* the tendency to desire what is best for the other,
* sympathy and empathy,
* honesty, perhaps in situations where it may be difficult for others to speak the truth, especially in terms of pointing out the perceived faults of one's counterpart
* mutual understanding.

In a comparison of personal relationships, friendship is considered to be closer than association, although there is a range of degrees of intimacy in both friendships and associations. Friendship and association can be thought of as spanning across the same continuum. The study of friendship is included in sociology, anthropology, philosophy, and zoology. Various theories of friendship have been proposed, among which are social psychology, social exchange theory, equity theory, relational dialectics, and attachment styles. See Interpersonal relationships

Thursday, 18 October, 2007

ppl call it college n V CALL IT LIFE...

canteen coffee,
sms chats.
b'day bumps,
masti aroun campus,
crush on boyz,
5t 4 crazy tthngz,
bunkin classes,
goin 4 moviez,
parentz fear,
tearz 4 luv,
long fone tokz,
wasting money,
amazin lov storiez,
partyin outsyd,
wanderin in coll lanez,
shortage of attendance,
scoldingz of teacherz,
jst everything!!
ppl call it college n V CALL IT LIFE...